Peace is not possible, if we place a lot of expectations on our partner. In this imperfect world building sweet relationship is a habit. We need trust and trust needs openness.
In the New Testament, when Jesus was asked about divorce, He replied that Moses gave permission to divorce because of the hardness of their hearts. Before God, marriage is a lifetime relationship that should never be severed by human action.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?” So they are no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:4-6).
However, when adultery has taken place, a divorce can be obtained, because adultery has already severed the marriage relationship and divorce is a formal acknowledgment of what has already taken place.
Good relationship need healthy impatience. Healthy impatience takes time for slowing down, thought and reflection. You need to identify your patterns.